What Would You Do??
I came across this photo on social media and it really struck a cord with me. Aside from the fact of what this girl and her mother have gone through and what it makes you feel like you would do if put in this situation but it also brought up a bad memory of me as a young girl being natural.
When I was young having big bushy curly hair was not the move. I would get picked on all the time and it really made me convince my mom to perm my hair. I remember being about 12-13 years old and my mom sent me to Texas to stay with my aunt for a couple weeks in the summer. My Aunt decided to perm my hair while I was there all the while telling me how much more cute I would be with out that big bushy out of control hair. A part of me was sad because she was talking bad about me and my hair but the other part was happy with the thought that I would soon have straight “normal” hair. I don’t remember the name of the perm she put in my hair but I do know that it was a kiddie perm so it really didn’t do much to tame my hair. I mean it would be straight but it would still be big. I remember my Aunt’s friend coming over and talking bad about my hair to my aunt right in front of my face. She said things like well I guess it won’t enough chemicals to tame all these naps, and look how big it still is she looks like an old lady. I remember feeling so bad about myself and crying that night thinking about the things that this so called “friend of my aunts” had to say about me. I was mad at this random lady for making me feel this way and mad at my aunt for not sticking up for me. It really helped add on to me being ashamed of my hair and I later grew to hate the bigness of it. It took me years later and being a grown woman to love my hair for what it is, bigness and all.
I would pay money to see this old friend of my aunts face now!
But back to the picture of the young lady and what her step mother did I feel like the step mother was wrong and she shouldn’t have made any decision about someone else’s daughter without contacting the mother first. Her response back to the mother was just a fight ready to happen.
I would love to hear what you ladies would do if put in this situation below in the comments.